Wednesday, January 31, 2007


Author: Stephen Covey

Discover the 90/10 Principle.
It will change your life (at least the way you react to the situations).

What is this principle?
The 10% of life is made up of what happens to you and another 90% of life is decided by how you react.

What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%.

The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
How?……By your own reaction. You cannot control a red light. But you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.

After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.

Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why??????? … Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is "D".

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.

Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off. Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.

The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.

The result
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

It CAN change your life!!!


Rohaya & Taufik said...

Cik Dinz,

Books by Stephen Covey not bad if you read from cover to cover and compare with other motivational books...

Kak Lady said...

cikdinz...apa yang tertulis memang benar...kak lady setuju sgt dengan principle 90/10...sebabnya ade orang suka react yang membuatkan perkara jadi lebih buruk sedangkan dia boleh react dengan mengambil jln paling mudah dan tidak merosakkan hari2 yang dilalui serta hubungan dgn org tersayang.....hehehe

k.d said...


Memang betul tu. It's actually your attitude towards life really. Looking at things at different perspective..more positive attitude.

Syikin said...


hmm..banyak membuatkan kita berfikir ttg cara bertindak selepas ni.

tq ya

MULAN said...

betul, betul.. tapi terkadang tu terbabas jugak. tapi bila dah tua sikit ni, baru terpikir byk ttg impact pada anak2 & others. tapi marah anak2 sikit2 kena la jugak kan.. marah tapi sayang..

goboklama said...

I've read this b4 and yes,I've changed my attitude since especially towards my son & it makes my life happier and helps reduce my bp's reading to the better..

sya said...

hah baru dpt masuk blog cikdinz ni

mama sarah said...

Cikdinz tengah start kempen better attitude ke? Saya sokong esp saya nak hidup dalam masyarakat yang lebih penyayang.

KAMATO said...

Stephen Covey - "First things first" memang puashati membacanya

Ajzie said...

"The more we use and magnify our present talents, the more talents we are given and the greater our capacity becomes."

Dr. Stephen R. Covey, from The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness

Anonymous said...

Read this earlier somewhere. Thanks for reflecting this back.

Anggerik M

cikdinz said...

adelah baca buku dia tapi topik nih yg paling menarik..heheheeee...

"something to share is better than nothing"